letting-go

CHANGE: Let Go and Grow.

“You have a problem at work, home or with yourself and you know you should do something about it but you never do – why?” Over the years, I have asked this question of numerous clients and there is one resounding answer, which I pick up through their body language and facial expressions because most don’t verbalize that they don’t like change. Human beings must be one of the few species on the planet that is willing to put up with pain for a long time rather than take action, to change and move on. By nature we become very […]

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right?-wrong?-different?

Not Right or Wrong – JUST DIFFERENT!

I watched two women interviewed on sunrise recently. Their English accents caught my attention and I wondered why they were on Australian TV. It is a fate of our society that bad news sells, shocking news grabs our attention and this was no different. It wasn’t immediately obvious that one woman was older than the other, when they were introduced as mother and daughter their story became even more unbelievable. So what was the message that they had to share with the world? That they spent £100,000 on plastic surgery to look like Katy Price, (a British topless model, previously […]

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USE IT OR LOSE IT!

As I age I become more forgetful. I know that’s ok because it happened to my mum and dad and friends parent’s and my grandparents – it’s just what happens when we age. Or is it? I used to think so until I heard an interview with Dr Michael Merzenich from the University of California where he states that: “Your brain continues to make new neurons throughout life in response to mental activity.” That got me thinking – maybe it was lack of stimulation that caused the older generation around me to become more forgetful. My parents watched TV every […]

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keep-climbing

KEEP CLIMBING

I can’t remember where I heard this story but I love the message it conveys. There was a climbing competition organized between a group of tiny mice. The goal was to reach the top of a really tall tower. A huge crowd gathered to watch the race. No one in the audience believed that the mice could reach the top because it was such a huge climb and would take forever. They yelled, “no mouse has ever made it to the top” and “that’s too difficult” and “it’s far too high.” The race began and within a short period of time many […]

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act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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be a good listener

W.A.I.T.

Why Am I Talking? Good question! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I love to talk. However, I have learned over the years that one major skill of an effective coach is to listen. Someone once told me: “we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening really is a skill. Most of us want others to hear what we have to say. It makes us feel good to know that they are interested, we believe that we are valued when someone takes the time to listen. […]

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body language

Hidden Thoughts

Would you like to have an insight into the hidden thoughts of others? Once you learn how to read someone’s body language then you will realize that their thoughts are not as hidden as they might think! Alan Pease has studied human body communication for decades and shares his discoveries in the best selling book: The Definitive Book of Body Language. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Communication with Body Language When we are aware of the signals that we intuitively give out, we can use this understanding to communicate more effectively with our loved ones at […]

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undercover boss

Undercover Boss

I love the TV show, Undercover Boss because it gives us a chance to see people as they really are.   Unaware that they are being assessed by the boss, the staff get on with everyday tasks, usually training the company’s CEO (incognito) as they go along.   I always find myself asking, what would my boss say at the end of a day with me? I laugh when I see the CEOs struggling to do basic menial tasks, but I also admire them for making the effort to find out what life is like working in the frontline of their organisation. […]

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resilience

Resilience

Resilience is important to our growth and survival. Yet resilience, we are told, is in decline. Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point wrote in the New Yorker that contemporary western society overemphasises the psychological impact of adversity and turns people into victims. He reminds us that research shows that adverse childhood incidents do not have the huge negative impact we think they have. What does have an impact is neglect. When a child’s basic needs are not met over a sustained period of time, that does indeed blight their future life. But while the notion of resilience may be […]

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Fear, is it a real threat

Did you know?

Is it a real threat? Did you know that most of your fears are based on things that happened in the past and you’re projecting that experience into your future?   Which means that there is actually nothing to be afraid of . Always ask yourself – is this situation (or impending situation) a real threat to my personal survival? Usually it isn’t. Is it a habit? Did you know that the more pleasure you feel whilst learning a new habit, the more likely the habit will stick? It’s true, so try it next time you are replacing a bad habit […]

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