Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to do 3 things that make a difference?
I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago. It immediately appealed to me. I could see that it required only a short period of time, it would help me create a routine and it would make a difference in everyday life, for both myself and those around me.
I implemented this routine immediately and the results were instant. I felt a sense of peace as soon as I pressed the pause button in my mind; three minutes seemed like a long time once I stopped and became aware of what I was doing and thinking. I was then able to make a choice and that felt liberating. People were saying that I looked different, obviously my features and body shape had not altered, but something in my physiology was sending out a new message. Maybe they sensed my calm, maybe the lines of tension had lifted from my brow, maybe my gait was lighter or my voice brighter. I’m not entirely sure, but I felt an inner shift and people around me obviously felt or saw it too. The things I did (and still do) to make a difference are great fun and for me it is now a game that I love to play, here are some examples:
- A chocolate biscuit left on a colleague’s desk when he wasn’t there. It was so funny to watch his confused look when he returned;
- Offering my neighbour a ride to the local shops when I saw her walking;
- Buying a small bunch of fresia for myself to fill my home with sweet scent;
- Tidying the bathroom without complaining.
- Dropping some money into a friend’s letterbox (her husband had lost his job).
- Thanking the bin men for clearing away all my rubbish.
What amazed me about this was the ripple affect it created.
Creating the ripple affect
- The man who received the chocolate biscuit, brought a cake for everyone to share the next day.
- My neighbour organized a catch-up and invited not only me but other women who lived in our street.
- My kids regularly buy me flowers.
It is incredible the impact our behaviour can have on others, which of course might be positive or negative. Doing this exercise made me realize that people are aware of our state, even when we are not!
Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to find 3 things that you are grateful for.
We all know that our behaviour can have an affect on others, but did you know that your thoughts have a huge affect on yourself? Taking three minutes to appreciate what is good in our life, not only gives the mind a moment to pause and reflect but also to fill with positive images, which create positive emotions and lead to a more positive outlook. I know you may be saying “I’ve heard all this positive stuff before and she doesn’t know what my life is like!” I am not saying anyone should ignore their problems or pretend that life is a bed of roses, because I am fully aware that it is not. However, it is equally easy to stay in a negative frame of mind and find it impossible to shift.
So, I challenge you to try this exercise for one month and keep a diary of what you are grateful for each day and how that makes you feel. I’d love to hear your results and what steps you took along the way.
Here are some of the things I am grateful for: My health; my home; my family and friends (sometimes I pick out one person and focus on all the things I love about him/her); having my own business; challenges that make me grow; the changing seasons. Feel free to add your own to this list.