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Drama Queen? Superhero? Angry Bird?

Do any of these personalities live in your home? The truth is that we are all guilty of playing some of these roles at different times, depending on the situation or the people involved. Recognising these behaviours in ourselves is the first step to having harmony in our lives, our work place and our home. Teaching this awareness to our children is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. You may have heard of The Drama Triangle. It is a relationship tool that was created by Psychiatrist, Stephen Karpman in 1968, as a way to show his clients […]

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Struggle is essential for Growth

I read this story a while ago, and felt compelled to share it. Life is not easy, but unfortunately we have been tricked in to believing that it should be. Constantly striving to be ‘happy’ or looking for a quick fix can leave us feeling frustrated, disappointed and more stressed than before. When we are over protective of ourselves, and others in our life, we unintentionally disempower each other in the quest to deal with life. The following tale contains a wise message. The original author is unknown. A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it […]

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The Game of Life

Most Kids/Teens play computer games.  This can drive parents mad with frustration, especially when their teenage child is not focusing on other things like schoolwork or house chores.  What if I told you that there are valuable life lessons to be learned from playing computer games? I discovered this recently when chatting to my teenager about the amount of time spent on gaming.  Defending her actions she bemoaned “but mum you don’t understand!”  That’s true.  I don’t get it.  “I can’t just give up, I am working to reach the next level, where I will be rewarded.”  I looked at […]

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What does it take to be awarded an MBE?

Hearing the news that my eldest brother has been awarded an MBE (Member of the British Empire) as part of the Queen’s Birthday Honours List, caused me to reflect on how this could be. He is the eldest of six children brought up in Castlemilk, Glasgow with poorly educated, working class parents. He didn’t go to a top school, or leave with the best grades. He didn’t inherit money or have heaps of guidance. What sets someone on this list apart from those who are not? What is it about these individuals that makes people want to nominate them, recognize […]

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Stronger Families : Stronger Communities

National Families Week, Australia’s annual celebration of the importance of families starts Sunday 15th May and is timed to coincide with the UN International Day of Families.  The focus for 2016 is stronger families, stronger communities. This theme highlights the important role that families play as the central building block of our community, and that community wellbeing is enhanced by family wellbeing. National Families Week is a time to celebrate with your family, make contact with your extended family and share in the enjoyment of family activities within the wider community.  This is an opportunity to celebrate the meaning of family and […]

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VolUnteering is SELFish

In the 1990s, I hit a turning point in my life and began to search for meaning. I wanted more than a corporate title. I needed a greater reward than money. My friend had just returned from Africa and when he spoke of the poverty and need, I felt this was something I had to contribute to. I left my career and enrolled as a volunteer. I was appointed Project Manager for the Surgical Eye Expedition (SEE) in Zimbabwe. Twenty young people from the UK made up my team and together we visited local villages, assisting nurses who performed eye […]

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Mums Supporting Mums

Mother’s Day offers us the opportunity to recognise, thank and show our appreciation and affection to our mums, mothers-in-law, grandmothers and other females who have had a positive impact on our life. Every woman loves being spoiled with gifts, surprises, hugs and the pleasure of celebrating with family and friends (and a day away from all the cooking and cleaning hopefully!) However, for many women Mother’s Day can be painful because it highlights what is missing. It can cause some mums who are struggling to compare themselves and their life to that of others, who seem to have everything under […]

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Is your dog the only one who listen’s to you in your home?

Is the use of social media causing arguments in your home? It’s not all bad! Firstly, let’s acknowledge that it’s not realistic to opt out of technology entirely. The web and digital devices are now thoroughly integrated into modern life. And to be honest I love using Facebook as a means for keeping in touch with my family and friends overseas. I was recently ‘found’ on Facebook by old school friends that I haven’t seen for 25 years, words cannot describe the uplifting feeling that I had at being reconnected with them. Set boundaries for the whole family: Set time […]

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Top 10 questions Parents should ask about their relationships with their teenager

Does my teen know that I really love her/him? Am I in control of my own emotions? Am I aware of my language?“ Do I tell and yell or ask and allow? Have my partner and I set consistent boundaries?  And is our teen aware of them? Do I take control of the atmosphere in my home? Have I taught my kids the value of money? Do you say, when I was your age? Is your child your best friend? Do I trust my teen? Does he/she know this? We cannot change our kids, we can only change our response to […]

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Top Tips for Powerful Parenting of Teens

It is common for children to pull away from their parents during the teenage years. Adolescence is a time when teens experience rapid physical, mental and emotional development. It is also a time when their social circle widens and they begin to develop a keen interest in relationships with their peers. This is largely the result of a natural desire to forge their own identity and assert their independence. Unfortunately, this can cause some teens and parents to grow apart. However, with patience, determination, and some tried and true relationship-building exercises, you can maintain a strong, close and loving relationship […]

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