life-balance

Balancing Act

Work, Rest & Play are the three main areas in life where we spend most of our time. Some of these areas we find more fulfilling than others. Some of these areas we find more challenging than others. Why is that? Usually because each area has its own tendency to encourage either achievement or pleasure, and we, often without thinking, fall into good and bad habits in each domain. It has been said that our natural tendency towards either pleasure or achievement plays out most obviously in our leisure activities. For example, on a Saturday morning, some people choose to spend […]

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what do you see?

The Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They began by telling each other about their illnesses but eventually, their talks became more intimate as they spoke of their wives, families, jobs and other personal matters. Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could […]

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happy life

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT …

Robert Waldinger presented a Tedx talk last year about what makes a good life? He asks the questions “what keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life? If you were going to invest now in your future best self, where would you put your time and your energy?”  He tells of a study where children born in the year 2000 were asked what their most important life goals were, and over 80% of them said that a major life goal for them was to get rich. Another 50% of those same young adults said that another major life goal was to become famous. There was no mention […]

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marketing mind

The Role of the Mind

I have just finished reading “Trout Strategy” by Jack Trout, his main message is about conquering the marketplace, however, I was drawn more to the chapters dealing with the role of the mind when buying, selling, advertising and marketing. I’m sure you will find it of interest too.   1. MINDS ARE LIMITED The human mind is a lot like a computer, it has a slot or a memory bank for each bit of information it chooses to retain. There is one major difference – the computer has to accept the information you put in. The human mind will only accept information that matches […]

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50 is the new 40

50 is the new 40.

I have just celebrated another birthday and was delighted to have read in a British newspaper recently that scientists have concluded that the brains of middle-aged people (like me) are getting sharper and younger to keep up with the demands of modern technology. Modern Technology boosting Mental skills and Memory People over age 50 are scoring increasingly better on tests of cognitive function, and researchers believe it is because of the increased mental stimulation of computers and mobile phones. Experts (and parents like me) who had previously worried that technology was causing people to stop thinking, can now rest assured […]

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IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED …. ASK YOURSELF WHY?

Planning the winter holiday in Japan with my family was great fun. What I hadn’t planned was the lesson I learnt about myself in the process… My teenage daughters and I agreed to join my husband in mastering the art of snowboarding. With huge excitement and positivity we booked rooms overlooking the mountains of Hakuba and signed up for beginner’s lessons. With our bags packed, a comfortable flight and a few days in Tokyo beforehand, we finally arrived at the ski resort. Winter sun shinning on white glistening snow, we stepped comfortably into a gondola, helped by an assistant who […]

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motivation

WHAT DRIVES YOU?

I have studied the topic of motivation and different internal or external drivers that move people forward in life.   For example, some people are motivated by money others strive for free time. I have struggled with the idea of goal setting for the past few years because (thanks to my husband for financially providing a comfortable life for me and my family) neither time nor money drive me to achieve. Some may say this is a very ‘spoiled’ scenario and to just ‘get over myself’. I may even recommend to someone else in this position to go and do voluntary […]

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

New Year : BE you

The New Year allows us to throw away old calendars and start fresh with a blank canvass for each new month ahead. We make resolutions in our minds to change and improve. We make verbal commitments to ourselves and then we give ourselves a hard time when we don’t measure up. We label ourselves a failure by mid February and convince ourselves that it is all too hard and new years resolutions are a stupid idea anyway! “Life is difficult.” This is the first sentence written by Scott Peck in his famous book The Road Less Travelled. And do you […]

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positives over negative

5 Positives to 1 Negative

This is a terrific article by neurogym.com I could’nt explain it better myself, so am sharing the whole article with you. When doctors and therapists teach patients to turn negative thoughts and worries into positive affirmations, the communication process improves and the patient regains self-control and confidence. But there’s a problem: the brain barely responds to our positive words and thoughts. They’re not a threat to our survival, so the brain doesn’t need to respond as rapidly as it does to negative thoughts and words. To overcome this neural bias for negativity, we must repetitiously and consciously generate as many […]

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