act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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be a good listener

W.A.I.T.

Why Am I Talking? Good question! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I love to talk. However, I have learned over the years that one major skill of an effective coach is to listen. Someone once told me: “we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening really is a skill. Most of us want others to hear what we have to say. It makes us feel good to know that they are interested, we believe that we are valued when someone takes the time to listen. […]

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body language

Hidden Thoughts

Would you like to have an insight into the hidden thoughts of others? Once you learn how to read someone’s body language then you will realize that their thoughts are not as hidden as they might think! Alan Pease has studied human body communication for decades and shares his discoveries in the best selling book: The Definitive Book of Body Language. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Communication with Body Language When we are aware of the signals that we intuitively give out, we can use this understanding to communicate more effectively with our loved ones at […]

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undercover boss

Undercover Boss

I love the TV show, Undercover Boss because it gives us a chance to see people as they really are.   Unaware that they are being assessed by the boss, the staff get on with everyday tasks, usually training the company’s CEO (incognito) as they go along.   I always find myself asking, what would my boss say at the end of a day with me? I laugh when I see the CEOs struggling to do basic menial tasks, but I also admire them for making the effort to find out what life is like working in the frontline of their organisation. […]

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resilience

Resilience

Resilience is important to our growth and survival. Yet resilience, we are told, is in decline. Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point wrote in the New Yorker that contemporary western society overemphasises the psychological impact of adversity and turns people into victims. He reminds us that research shows that adverse childhood incidents do not have the huge negative impact we think they have. What does have an impact is neglect. When a child’s basic needs are not met over a sustained period of time, that does indeed blight their future life. But while the notion of resilience may be […]

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Fear, is it a real threat

Did you know?

Is it a real threat? Did you know that most of your fears are based on things that happened in the past and you’re projecting that experience into your future?   Which means that there is actually nothing to be afraid of . Always ask yourself – is this situation (or impending situation) a real threat to my personal survival? Usually it isn’t. Is it a habit? Did you know that the more pleasure you feel whilst learning a new habit, the more likely the habit will stick? It’s true, so try it next time you are replacing a bad habit […]

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mindset

M I N D S E T  

Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University spent decades researching people’s beliefs about their ability and discovered that it all evolves around their mindset. Let’s take a look at different mindsets now: The Fixed Mindset A person with this mindset upholds the idea that people’s ability is fixed and not able to change.  According to this view, people are either good at a particular task/topic or they are not.  The fixed mindset labels others according to personal characteristics ie:  people are either good or bad, caring or selfish, clever or stupid etc…  as you can see this is a form of judgment and leads to others feeling that they are constantly […]

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power

P O W E R 

The word POWER is often in my thoughts, it is in my company name after all, 2Mpower.co – to empower is very close to my heart.  I love the word POWER, what it stands for, what it implies and how it can assist us in our every day lives.  Hence, the reason I built my business around it. The dictionary definition of the English word POWER comes from the Anglo-Norman French word poeir which has many meanings: The ability to do something or act in a particular way. I like this definition because it clearly shows that we have choice and can be in control.  We can choose to act or react in […]

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what role are you playing?

Life is DRAMA – What Role Do You Play?

We all play various roles in life. Often these are handed to us naturally, for example, our position in the family (parent, child, sibling etc). Other times we make a choice, like our career (nurse, lawyer, tradesman). It is also very common that we let other people tell us which roles we should play in life. This is rarely meant to be bossy, it usually comes from a place of genuine concern where they believe that they know what is best for us. However, maybe without realizing it (I’m giving them the benefit of the doubt here!) the role they […]

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write a book

LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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