Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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Things you need to do at the beginning of a new year!

One of the things I love about living in Australia is that life slows down for the whole month of January.  I still find a hot, sunny Christmas a bit confusing but I like the fact that people take time during, and after the silly season to spend time at the beach.  It is not only the festive season but also our summer holiday time and most schools don’t start back until the end of January. I use this time to set myself up for success in the coming year.  I don’t just mean business success, but personal success too. […]

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KEEP CALM THIS CHRISTMAS

Easier said than done, I hear you say, when reading this title.  I agree. It’s an oxymoron having the words ‘calm’ and ‘Christmas’ in same sentence.  For most of us the run up to Christmas and even the special day itself, is anything but calm. Adverts talk about the ‘Christmas Frenzy’, just reading those words makes my brain overheat. However, it doesn’t have to be that way.  You can choose to do it differently this year.  As a mum with older teenagers I look back and wish I had have relaxed more on 25th December every year, here are a […]

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Creating your Life Midlife

My young client said recently “I really appreciate having an older lady in my life for guidance and wisdom”.  I looked over my shoulder, to see who this older woman was, only to realise that she was referring to me! Since when had I become the older lady, I thought? I still feel the same as I did when I was in my 20’s. I found it challenging when the first signs of uninvited lines marked my face, and silver strands appeared around my hairline. I remember being annoyed that my fitness level had fallen to an all time low, […]

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Music on the Mind

Do you like listening to music? Do you have a favourite genre? Do you sing along while driving? Are you motivated to dance when you hear it? Are you soothed by it? Every person will answer these questions differently because we all have our own taste and preference when it comes to music. Some people don’t listen to music at all; they find it a distraction and sometimes even irritating. I’m always looking for ways to help clients shift their mindset and music is one that I recommend often. Music can take our mind to a peaceful place, or an […]

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Drama Queen? Superhero? Angry Bird?

Do any of these personalities live in your home? The truth is that we are all guilty of playing some of these roles at different times, depending on the situation or the people involved. Recognising these behaviours in ourselves is the first step to having harmony in our lives, our work place and our home. Teaching this awareness to our children is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. You may have heard of The Drama Triangle. It is a relationship tool that was created by Psychiatrist, Stephen Karpman in 1968, as a way to show his clients […]

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Struggle is essential for Growth

I read this story a while ago, and felt compelled to share it. Life is not easy, but unfortunately we have been tricked in to believing that it should be. Constantly striving to be ‘happy’ or looking for a quick fix can leave us feeling frustrated, disappointed and more stressed than before. When we are over protective of ourselves, and others in our life, we unintentionally disempower each other in the quest to deal with life. The following tale contains a wise message. The original author is unknown. A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it […]

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The Game of Life

Most Kids/Teens play computer games.  This can drive parents mad with frustration, especially when their teenage child is not focusing on other things like schoolwork or house chores.  What if I told you that there are valuable life lessons to be learned from playing computer games? I discovered this recently when chatting to my teenager about the amount of time spent on gaming.  Defending her actions she bemoaned “but mum you don’t understand!”  That’s true.  I don’t get it.  “I can’t just give up, I am working to reach the next level, where I will be rewarded.”  I looked at […]

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Is your dog the only one who listen’s to you in your home?

Is the use of social media causing arguments in your home? It’s not all bad! Firstly, let’s acknowledge that it’s not realistic to opt out of technology entirely. The web and digital devices are now thoroughly integrated into modern life. And to be honest I love using Facebook as a means for keeping in touch with my family and friends overseas. I was recently ‘found’ on Facebook by old school friends that I haven’t seen for 25 years, words cannot describe the uplifting feeling that I had at being reconnected with them. Set boundaries for the whole family: Set time […]

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Balancing Act

Work, Rest & Play are the three main areas in life where we spend most of our time. Some of these areas we find more fulfilling than others. Some of these areas we find more challenging than others. Why is that? Usually because each area has its own tendency to encourage either achievement or pleasure, and we, often without thinking, fall into good and bad habits in each domain. It has been said that our natural tendency towards either pleasure or achievement plays out most obviously in our leisure activities. For example, on a Saturday morning, some people choose to spend […]

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