mind_platter

“The Mind Platter”

There is more to education than Reading, wRiting and ‘aRithmetic. Dr Dan Siegel M.D, world renowned Neuropsychiatrist, likes to focus on three different R’s: Relationships, Reflection and Resilience. Through his research he reports that when we are interconnected with others, have empathy with others and insight into ourselves, we have “mind sight”. With mind sight we can experience reflective relationships, which create resilience – the ability to meet challenges and bounce back after a fall. The goal for Siegel is a healthy brain that sustains a person’s wellbeing. As he sees it, the brain needs proper nutrition every day and […]

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clear bad habits

Life Patterns

Have you seen the movie Ground Hog Day? Why do you think it was so popular? One reason is because everyone could relate to it: the routine, the patterns, the habits. We all have repetitive behaviours in our lives, some more positive than others. An important question to ask yourself is: IS THIS AN EMPOWERING PATTERN? Are you experiencing any of these repetitive patterns? ▪ Loneliness ▪ Dominated by fear. ▪ Irritated all the time. ▪ Judgmental of others. ▪ Ongoing financial worries. ▪ Start and never finish tasks. ▪ Weight loss, weight regain, repeat. ▪ Attracting the wrong type […]

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act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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be a good listener

W.A.I.T.

Why Am I Talking? Good question! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I love to talk. However, I have learned over the years that one major skill of an effective coach is to listen. Someone once told me: “we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening really is a skill. Most of us want others to hear what we have to say. It makes us feel good to know that they are interested, we believe that we are valued when someone takes the time to listen. […]

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undercover boss

Undercover Boss

I love the TV show, Undercover Boss because it gives us a chance to see people as they really are.   Unaware that they are being assessed by the boss, the staff get on with everyday tasks, usually training the company’s CEO (incognito) as they go along.   I always find myself asking, what would my boss say at the end of a day with me? I laugh when I see the CEOs struggling to do basic menial tasks, but I also admire them for making the effort to find out what life is like working in the frontline of their organisation. […]

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resilience

Resilience

Resilience is important to our growth and survival. Yet resilience, we are told, is in decline. Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point wrote in the New Yorker that contemporary western society overemphasises the psychological impact of adversity and turns people into victims. He reminds us that research shows that adverse childhood incidents do not have the huge negative impact we think they have. What does have an impact is neglect. When a child’s basic needs are not met over a sustained period of time, that does indeed blight their future life. But while the notion of resilience may be […]

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Fear, is it a real threat

Did you know?

Is it a real threat? Did you know that most of your fears are based on things that happened in the past and you’re projecting that experience into your future?   Which means that there is actually nothing to be afraid of . Always ask yourself – is this situation (or impending situation) a real threat to my personal survival? Usually it isn’t. Is it a habit? Did you know that the more pleasure you feel whilst learning a new habit, the more likely the habit will stick? It’s true, so try it next time you are replacing a bad habit […]

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power

P O W E R 

The word POWER is often in my thoughts, it is in my company name after all, 2Mpower.co – to empower is very close to my heart.  I love the word POWER, what it stands for, what it implies and how it can assist us in our every day lives.  Hence, the reason I built my business around it. The dictionary definition of the English word POWER comes from the Anglo-Norman French word poeir which has many meanings: The ability to do something or act in a particular way. I like this definition because it clearly shows that we have choice and can be in control.  We can choose to act or react in […]

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write a book

LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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rewire your brain

The NEGATIVE Brain

“With nothing to do, the mind is unable to prevent negative thoughts from elbowing their way to center stage – worries about one’s love life, health, investments, family and job are always hovering at the periphery of attention, waiting until there is nothing pressing that demands concentration. As soon as the mind is relaxed, the potential problems that were waiting in the wings take over.” (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1990) Worrying is the brain’s default position Evolution has ensured that we are quick to attend to potential threats around us by providing us with an attention system, which orientates to the negative […]

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