Its the Welcome That’s Most Important

It’s the welcome that’s most important,” my mum used to say whenever we had people visiting our house. Then she would run around like a mad woman cleaning, clearing, screaming at us kids to help! Everyone would receive a warm welcome except us! As we approach Christmas and plan to host events, allow me to share a few tips on how to deal with all the chores and tasks involved in a positive manner. We are driven by our feelings. Those feelings come from an initial thought. Those feelings also direct our behaviour. If we can manage that initial thought, […]

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happy life

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT …

Robert Waldinger presented a Tedx talk last year about what makes a good life? He asks the questions “what keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life? If you were going to invest now in your future best self, where would you put your time and your energy?”  He tells of a study where children born in the year 2000 were asked what their most important life goals were, and over 80% of them said that a major life goal for them was to get rich. Another 50% of those same young adults said that another major life goal was to become famous. There was no mention […]

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motivation

WHAT DRIVES YOU?

I have studied the topic of motivation and different internal or external drivers that move people forward in life.   For example, some people are motivated by money others strive for free time. I have struggled with the idea of goal setting for the past few years because (thanks to my husband for financially providing a comfortable life for me and my family) neither time nor money drive me to achieve. Some may say this is a very ‘spoiled’ scenario and to just ‘get over myself’. I may even recommend to someone else in this position to go and do voluntary […]

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

New Year : BE you

The New Year allows us to throw away old calendars and start fresh with a blank canvass for each new month ahead. We make resolutions in our minds to change and improve. We make verbal commitments to ourselves and then we give ourselves a hard time when we don’t measure up. We label ourselves a failure by mid February and convince ourselves that it is all too hard and new years resolutions are a stupid idea anyway! “Life is difficult.” This is the first sentence written by Scott Peck in his famous book The Road Less Travelled. And do you […]

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what do you see?

Do you SEE miracles?  

The more I read about brain science and the power of the mind, the more I wish we could change our education system. Instead of expecting kids to regurgitate facts and figures, I would like to help them draw a vision of their future and give them signposts along the way. The path will not be straight because life never is (and would be boring if it was). There will be forks in the road, to make them stop and choose. This is great because we all learn, grow and are led to freedom through choice. A number of years ago […]

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Change

Do I have to change?

No, of course you don’t! If something isn’t broken, why fix it? As long as you are happy with yourself and your life, there is no reason to change anything. However, when you begin to experience pain, or when your thoughts and actions start to create problems, you will NEED to change. More often than not we do not WANT to change. In each and every individual there is an infinite potential for expansion and growth. Not everyone chooses to use it, but it is there! Perhaps the most ironic thing is when people continue to do what they’ve always […]

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letting-go

CHANGE: Let Go and Grow.

“You have a problem at work, home or with yourself and you know you should do something about it but you never do – why?” Over the years, I have asked this question of numerous clients and there is one resounding answer, which I pick up through their body language and facial expressions because most don’t verbalize that they don’t like change. Human beings must be one of the few species on the planet that is willing to put up with pain for a long time rather than take action, to change and move on. By nature we become very […]

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body language

Hidden Thoughts

Would you like to have an insight into the hidden thoughts of others? Once you learn how to read someone’s body language then you will realize that their thoughts are not as hidden as they might think! Alan Pease has studied human body communication for decades and shares his discoveries in the best selling book: The Definitive Book of Body Language. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Communication with Body Language When we are aware of the signals that we intuitively give out, we can use this understanding to communicate more effectively with our loved ones at […]

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resilience

Resilience

Resilience is important to our growth and survival. Yet resilience, we are told, is in decline. Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point wrote in the New Yorker that contemporary western society overemphasises the psychological impact of adversity and turns people into victims. He reminds us that research shows that adverse childhood incidents do not have the huge negative impact we think they have. What does have an impact is neglect. When a child’s basic needs are not met over a sustained period of time, that does indeed blight their future life. But while the notion of resilience may be […]

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Fear, is it a real threat

Did you know?

Is it a real threat? Did you know that most of your fears are based on things that happened in the past and you’re projecting that experience into your future?   Which means that there is actually nothing to be afraid of . Always ask yourself – is this situation (or impending situation) a real threat to my personal survival? Usually it isn’t. Is it a habit? Did you know that the more pleasure you feel whilst learning a new habit, the more likely the habit will stick? It’s true, so try it next time you are replacing a bad habit […]

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