Stress Less !

Stress is the feeling of being under too much mental or emotional pressure. Pressure turns into stress when we feel unable to cope. We feel unable to cope when there is a mismatch between the demands made on us (real or perceived) and our ability (real or perceived) to cope with them. It is the balance between how we view demands made on us, and how we think we can cope with them, that determines how stressed we feel. Two people may react differently to the same situation, for example an event that is perceived as stressful for one person […]

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Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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volunteering is selfish

VolUnteering is SELFish

In the 1990s, I hit a turning point in my life and began to search for meaning. I wanted more than a corporate title. I needed a greater reward than money. My friend had just returned from Africa and when he spoke of the poverty and need, I felt this was something I had to contribute to. I left my career and enrolled as a volunteer. I was appointed Project Manager for the Surgical Eye Expedition (SEE) in Zimbabwe. Twenty young people from the UK made up my team and together we visited local villages, assisting nurses who performed eye […]

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what do you see?

The Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They began by telling each other about their illnesses but eventually, their talks became more intimate as they spoke of their wives, families, jobs and other personal matters. Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could […]

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happy life

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT …

Robert Waldinger presented a Tedx talk last year about what makes a good life? He asks the questions “what keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life? If you were going to invest now in your future best self, where would you put your time and your energy?”  He tells of a study where children born in the year 2000 were asked what their most important life goals were, and over 80% of them said that a major life goal for them was to get rich. Another 50% of those same young adults said that another major life goal was to become famous. There was no mention […]

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