Stress Less !

Stress is the feeling of being under too much mental or emotional pressure. Pressure turns into stress when we feel unable to cope. We feel unable to cope when there is a mismatch between the demands made on us (real or perceived) and our ability (real or perceived) to cope with them. It is the balance between how we view demands made on us, and how we think we can cope with them, that determines how stressed we feel. Two people may react differently to the same situation, for example an event that is perceived as stressful for one person […]

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what do you see?

The Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They began by telling each other about their illnesses but eventually, their talks became more intimate as they spoke of their wives, families, jobs and other personal matters. Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could […]

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marketing mind

The Role of the Mind

I have just finished reading “Trout Strategy” by Jack Trout, his main message is about conquering the marketplace, however, I was drawn more to the chapters dealing with the role of the mind when buying, selling, advertising and marketing. I’m sure you will find it of interest too.   1. MINDS ARE LIMITED The human mind is a lot like a computer, it has a slot or a memory bank for each bit of information it chooses to retain. There is one major difference – the computer has to accept the information you put in. The human mind will only accept information that matches […]

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50 is the new 40

50 is the new 40.

I have just celebrated another birthday and was delighted to have read in a British newspaper recently that scientists have concluded that the brains of middle-aged people (like me) are getting sharper and younger to keep up with the demands of modern technology. Modern Technology boosting Mental skills and Memory People over age 50 are scoring increasingly better on tests of cognitive function, and researchers believe it is because of the increased mental stimulation of computers and mobile phones. Experts (and parents like me) who had previously worried that technology was causing people to stop thinking, can now rest assured […]

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right?-wrong?-different?

Not Right or Wrong – JUST DIFFERENT!

I watched two women interviewed on sunrise recently. Their English accents caught my attention and I wondered why they were on Australian TV. It is a fate of our society that bad news sells, shocking news grabs our attention and this was no different. It wasn’t immediately obvious that one woman was older than the other, when they were introduced as mother and daughter their story became even more unbelievable. So what was the message that they had to share with the world? That they spent £100,000 on plastic surgery to look like Katy Price, (a British topless model, previously […]

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mindset

M I N D S E T  

Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University spent decades researching people’s beliefs about their ability and discovered that it all evolves around their mindset. Let’s take a look at different mindsets now: The Fixed Mindset A person with this mindset upholds the idea that people’s ability is fixed and not able to change.  According to this view, people are either good at a particular task/topic or they are not.  The fixed mindset labels others according to personal characteristics ie:  people are either good or bad, caring or selfish, clever or stupid etc…  as you can see this is a form of judgment and leads to others feeling that they are constantly […]

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3 steps forward

3 x 3 x 3

Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to do 3 things that make a difference? I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago. It immediately appealed to me. I could see that it required only a short period of time, it would help me create a routine and it would make a difference in everyday life, for both myself and those around me. I implemented this routine immediately and the results were instant. I felt a sense of peace as soon as I pressed the pause button in my mind; three minutes seemed like a long time […]

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happy people

Happy People

An epidemic of depression is blighting the lives of people more than ever before. Lonely pensioners, struggling middle-managers and clinically depressed teenagers are no longer a rarity. As a nation, we have never had it so good in terms of money in our pockets, university education opportunities, helpful gadgets and entertainment devices. Yet, we are dissatisfied. Constant advertising from banks and retailers encourage us to increase our spending power, promoting the idea that a wider range of choice will lead to feeling happy and prosperous. Prosperity is important to all of us, however, it has been proven that once we […]

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negative feelings controlled

Remote CONTROL 

Everything we do is based around FEELINGS!  We watch a romantic movie because it makes us feel good.  We buy a new dress because it makes us feel good.  We hang out with friends because it makes us feel good. So what do we do when events cause negative feelings within us? We tell ourselves to stop being so stupid.  We say it doesn’t matter, when it really does.  We try to ignore the negativity hoping it will go away.  We decide to fight it yet, we don’t know how.  We get angry and spiral out of control, then are […]

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choice

YOU ARE IN CHARGE! – SO TAKE CHARGE…life is all about choice….. 

My teenage daughter was complaining about a list of things that went wrong for her last week and how other people ‘made’ her feel upset, or angry or frustrated. She was genuinely stunned when I told her that no one could ‘make’ her feel a certain way.   I explained that she chose her reaction to every single situation, whether that was an emotional response or physical action or negative self-talk.  We went on to discuss the importance of her being in charge of her life and the relevant consequences.  I could see her posture change to one of confidence as […]

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