Women Supporting Women

I was walking with my dog this morning and overheard two ladies chatting (I wasn’t prying, I promise – they were just speaking very loud!) “Oh, I didn’t realise…   that changes my mind then….    I won’t be so hard on her next time.” It is human nature to view situations from our own point of view, we bring our experiences, expectations and opinions with us to every event.  But this can lead us to misjudge others, especially if we don’t know the back story or all the facts. When someone behaves in a manner we don’t like, our automatic reaction […]

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Surviving Against All Odds!

I have just returned from an amazing trip to the Galapagos Islands in Ecuador. You may think this is of no interest to you… but read on because the lessons I learned during my time in this magical place are relevant to all humankind. Many animals made these Islands their home and have survived against all the odds. How? By adapting to their surroundings… And by that, I mean PHYSICALLY adapting. Can you imagine changing your body to adjust to new circumstances in life? I discovered that the Flightless Cormorant, is one of the rarest birds in the world. Why? Because […]

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Pick Your Fights!

Why is it important to pick your fights? Not everything is important. Some things that you feel strongly about now, just won’t matter this time next year. Every battle takes up precious time. Each problem you become embroiled in can end up stealing your time, which could’ve been spent doing fun things. Arguments leave us feeling drained of energy. We only have a certain reserve each day, don’t waste your energy on fruitless debates. After a fight with someone, we often feel upset and regretful. Hurtful words and actions cannot be taken back. They can damage relationships long term. So […]

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Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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achievement

What does it take to be awarded an MBE?

Hearing the news that my eldest brother has been awarded an MBE (Member of the British Empire) as part of the Queen’s Birthday Honours List, caused me to reflect on how this could be. He is the eldest of six children brought up in Castlemilk, Glasgow with poorly educated, working class parents. He didn’t go to a top school, or leave with the best grades. He didn’t inherit money or have heaps of guidance. What sets someone on this list apart from those who are not? What is it about these individuals that makes people want to nominate them, recognize […]

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Top Tips for Powerful Parenting of Teens

It is common for children to pull away from their parents during the teenage years. Adolescence is a time when teens experience rapid physical, mental and emotional development. It is also a time when their social circle widens and they begin to develop a keen interest in relationships with their peers. This is largely the result of a natural desire to forge their own identity and assert their independence. Unfortunately, this can cause some teens and parents to grow apart. However, with patience, determination, and some tried and true relationship-building exercises, you can maintain a strong, close and loving relationship […]

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

New Year : BE you

The New Year allows us to throw away old calendars and start fresh with a blank canvass for each new month ahead. We make resolutions in our minds to change and improve. We make verbal commitments to ourselves and then we give ourselves a hard time when we don’t measure up. We label ourselves a failure by mid February and convince ourselves that it is all too hard and new years resolutions are a stupid idea anyway! “Life is difficult.” This is the first sentence written by Scott Peck in his famous book The Road Less Travelled. And do you […]

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letting-go

CHANGE: Let Go and Grow.

“You have a problem at work, home or with yourself and you know you should do something about it but you never do – why?” Over the years, I have asked this question of numerous clients and there is one resounding answer, which I pick up through their body language and facial expressions because most don’t verbalize that they don’t like change. Human beings must be one of the few species on the planet that is willing to put up with pain for a long time rather than take action, to change and move on. By nature we become very […]

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act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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