Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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All You Need Is A Little Gumption!

At the beginning of each year I choose a word to guide me through the next 12 months. A word that I find inspiration from, a word that resonates with what I’m trying to achieve. For 2017 my word is GUMPTION.   I love the word gumption not just because it originates from 18th century Scotland, and I was born there, but also because of what it means. The dictionary definition states that a person with gumption is shrewd, spirited and resourceful.   I believe everyone has a dose of gumption. Some of us just need a bit of help […]

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Life Patterns

Have you seen the movie Ground Hog Day? Why do you think it was so popular? One reason is because everyone could relate to it: the routine, the patterns, the habits. We all have repetitive behaviours in our lives, some more positive than others. An important question to ask yourself is: IS THIS AN EMPOWERING PATTERN? Are you experiencing any of these repetitive patterns? ▪ Loneliness ▪ Dominated by fear. ▪ Irritated all the time. ▪ Judgmental of others. ▪ Ongoing financial worries. ▪ Start and never finish tasks. ▪ Weight loss, weight regain, repeat. ▪ Attracting the wrong type […]

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USE IT OR LOSE IT!

As I age I become more forgetful. I know that’s ok because it happened to my mum and dad and friends parent’s and my grandparents – it’s just what happens when we age. Or is it? I used to think so until I heard an interview with Dr Michael Merzenich from the University of California where he states that: “Your brain continues to make new neurons throughout life in response to mental activity.” That got me thinking – maybe it was lack of stimulation that caused the older generation around me to become more forgetful. My parents watched TV every […]

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Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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W.A.I.T.

Why Am I Talking? Good question! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I love to talk. However, I have learned over the years that one major skill of an effective coach is to listen. Someone once told me: “we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening really is a skill. Most of us want others to hear what we have to say. It makes us feel good to know that they are interested, we believe that we are valued when someone takes the time to listen. […]

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Life is DRAMA – What Role Do You Play?

We all play various roles in life. Often these are handed to us naturally, for example, our position in the family (parent, child, sibling etc). Other times we make a choice, like our career (nurse, lawyer, tradesman). It is also very common that we let other people tell us which roles we should play in life. This is rarely meant to be bossy, it usually comes from a place of genuine concern where they believe that they know what is best for us. However, maybe without realizing it (I’m giving them the benefit of the doubt here!) the role they […]

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The NEGATIVE Brain

“With nothing to do, the mind is unable to prevent negative thoughts from elbowing their way to center stage – worries about one’s love life, health, investments, family and job are always hovering at the periphery of attention, waiting until there is nothing pressing that demands concentration. As soon as the mind is relaxed, the potential problems that were waiting in the wings take over.” (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1990) Worrying is the brain’s default position Evolution has ensured that we are quick to attend to potential threats around us by providing us with an attention system, which orientates to the negative […]

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Tools for Change

When you want to change a personal situation or negative attitude or bad habit, making the decision to do so, is the first important step. However, just making the decision won’t bring about the change. Further action is required, starting in our sub-conscious mind and then eventually reality. From the decision, create a mental picture of what you want, this is your goal. This goal becomes an affirmation when you write it down and use it to programme your subconscious. An affirmation is a statement of fact or belief written in the positive, present tense as though the goal was […]

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