All You Need Is A Little Gumption!

At the beginning of each year I choose a word to guide me through the next 12 months. A word that I find inspiration from, a word that resonates with what I’m trying to achieve. For 2017 my word is GUMPTION.   I love the word gumption not just because it originates from 18th century Scotland, and I was born there, but also because of what it means. The dictionary definition states that a person with gumption is shrewd, spirited and resourceful.   I believe everyone has a dose of gumption. Some of us just need a bit of help […]

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Top Tips for Powerful Parenting of Teens

It is common for children to pull away from their parents during the teenage years. Adolescence is a time when teens experience rapid physical, mental and emotional development. It is also a time when their social circle widens and they begin to develop a keen interest in relationships with their peers. This is largely the result of a natural desire to forge their own identity and assert their independence. Unfortunately, this can cause some teens and parents to grow apart. However, with patience, determination, and some tried and true relationship-building exercises, you can maintain a strong, close and loving relationship […]

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WHAT DRIVES YOU?

I have studied the topic of motivation and different internal or external drivers that move people forward in life.   For example, some people are motivated by money others strive for free time. I have struggled with the idea of goal setting for the past few years because (thanks to my husband for financially providing a comfortable life for me and my family) neither time nor money drive me to achieve. Some may say this is a very ‘spoiled’ scenario and to just ‘get over myself’. I may even recommend to someone else in this position to go and do voluntary […]

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

New Year : BE you

The New Year allows us to throw away old calendars and start fresh with a blank canvass for each new month ahead. We make resolutions in our minds to change and improve. We make verbal commitments to ourselves and then we give ourselves a hard time when we don’t measure up. We label ourselves a failure by mid February and convince ourselves that it is all too hard and new years resolutions are a stupid idea anyway! “Life is difficult.” This is the first sentence written by Scott Peck in his famous book The Road Less Travelled. And do you […]

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KEEP CLIMBING

I can’t remember where I heard this story but I love the message it conveys. There was a climbing competition organized between a group of tiny mice. The goal was to reach the top of a really tall tower. A huge crowd gathered to watch the race. No one in the audience believed that the mice could reach the top because it was such a huge climb and would take forever. They yelled, “no mouse has ever made it to the top” and “that’s too difficult” and “it’s far too high.” The race began and within a short period of time many […]

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LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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The NEGATIVE Brain

“With nothing to do, the mind is unable to prevent negative thoughts from elbowing their way to center stage – worries about one’s love life, health, investments, family and job are always hovering at the periphery of attention, waiting until there is nothing pressing that demands concentration. As soon as the mind is relaxed, the potential problems that were waiting in the wings take over.” (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1990) Worrying is the brain’s default position Evolution has ensured that we are quick to attend to potential threats around us by providing us with an attention system, which orientates to the negative […]

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Tools for Change

When you want to change a personal situation or negative attitude or bad habit, making the decision to do so, is the first important step. However, just making the decision won’t bring about the change. Further action is required, starting in our sub-conscious mind and then eventually reality. From the decision, create a mental picture of what you want, this is your goal. This goal becomes an affirmation when you write it down and use it to programme your subconscious. An affirmation is a statement of fact or belief written in the positive, present tense as though the goal was […]

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Remote CONTROL 

Everything we do is based around FEELINGS!  We watch a romantic movie because it makes us feel good.  We buy a new dress because it makes us feel good.  We hang out with friends because it makes us feel good. So what do we do when events cause negative feelings within us? We tell ourselves to stop being so stupid.  We say it doesn’t matter, when it really does.  We try to ignore the negativity hoping it will go away.  We decide to fight it yet, we don’t know how.  We get angry and spiral out of control, then are […]

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Move over SMART GOALS – TRAMS are coming through

Writing out my ‘smart’ goals for this month was such a chore.  Feeling fed up with the same old mechanical rote of ‘specific, measured, achievable, realistic and timed’ my creative mind started to play a game and turned ‘smart’ in to T.R.A.M.S. T.R.A.M.S goals mean more to me because they focus me ‘towards’ the positive and away from the negative.  I can already visualize my ‘rewards’.   I laugh when I act as if.  Keeping my goals meaningful and memorable allows me to engage my heart, not just my head.  Being aware of stability is important to me and as long […]

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