Women Supporting Women

I was walking with my dog this morning and overheard two ladies chatting (I wasn’t prying, I promise – they were just speaking very loud!) “Oh, I didn’t realise…   that changes my mind then….    I won’t be so hard on her next time.” It is human nature to view situations from our own point of view, we bring our experiences, expectations and opinions with us to every event.  But this can lead us to misjudge others, especially if we don’t know the back story or all the facts. When someone behaves in a manner we don’t like, our automatic reaction […]

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Dealing With Life After Loss

We have all suffered loss of some sort: death of a loved one, redundancy, divorce, termination of a pet, to name but a few. All of these involve the ending of a relationship and they all cause pain one way or another. When I was 28 my boyfriend was killed in a car crash. When I was 38 my dad suffered a stroke and died a few months later. A few days after my 40th birthday party my mum was admitted to hospital and died days later (she had liver cancer and we didn’t know.) My brother-in-law passed away in […]

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Surviving Against All Odds!

I have just returned from an amazing trip to the Galapagos Islands in Ecuador. You may think this is of no interest to you… but read on because the lessons I learned during my time in this magical place are relevant to all humankind. Many animals made these Islands their home and have survived against all the odds. How? By adapting to their surroundings… And by that, I mean PHYSICALLY adapting. Can you imagine changing your body to adjust to new circumstances in life? I discovered that the Flightless Cormorant, is one of the rarest birds in the world. Why? Because […]

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New Year, New Mindset, New Results

It’s so exciting to be a woman in 2019!  Opportunities have never been better. Women are standing up for what they believe, they are speaking out about injustices and they are taking action to make our world a better place. To do this, many of these women have had to garner much courage and determination, thankfully they did not have to do it alone. They sought guidance, support and community.  If you don’t have these things in your life in 2019 you are missing out…. Negative self talk, procrastination and doubt are only a few of the many things that can hold us […]

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Christmas Countdown

Have you started the countdown to Christmas? As a child I loved the daily process of opening the little flaps on the advent calendar. The anticipation of waiting to see what was behind the scene each day was almost more exciting than the actual picture being revealed. The picture behind each door tells a story building to the climax of the birth of Jesus. A bit like turning the pages of a book, with each chapter moving the reader towards a final realisation. Christmas is a happy time, a time of hope and giving, of kindness and sharing. Yet all […]

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Fed Up With Society’s Consumption of Stuff?

Am I the only one feeling overwhelmed by the amount of Black Friday Special Bargain emails flooding into my inbox this weekend? I feel torn because a part of me doesn’t want to miss out on the latest, greatest offer – but there is also a greater part of me that is fed up with our society’s consumption of ‘stuff.’ I know this Black Friday marketing is there to highlight what I don’t have, but even if it’s something I don’t really want or need my subconscious is now aware that I don’t have it and feels slightly bereft, weird but true! Rene […]

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Pick Your Fights!

Why is it important to pick your fights? Not everything is important. Some things that you feel strongly about now, just won’t matter this time next year. Every battle takes up precious time. Each problem you become embroiled in can end up stealing your time, which could’ve been spent doing fun things. Arguments leave us feeling drained of energy. We only have a certain reserve each day, don’t waste your energy on fruitless debates. After a fight with someone, we often feel upset and regretful. Hurtful words and actions cannot be taken back. They can damage relationships long term. So […]

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Who Are You Really?

Have you ever thought about who you really are? I don’t mean the roles you play in life: mother, friend, daughter, employee. Nor your social identities: clever, rich, pretty. None of these represent who you really are on the inside. To know yourself, is to understand your personal values, motivations, beliefs, purpose and vision. Not what you have been told by others, but what you have discovered for yourself. Knowing your inner self requires introspection and self-awareness. I don’t mean naval-gazing; I am talking about a process of self-discovery, a life-long journey that is intriguing, interesting and inspiring. During our school days most of us were told […]

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Conversation, Care & Community

Earlier this year the UK appointed a Minister for Loneliness. We often think it’s only the elderly who feel alone. But this loneliness epidemic is not owned by the old. In my role as a Life Coach, I’ve spoken to people of all ages who feel isolated and invisible in our modern world. In fact, I experienced this myself a few years ago. When we moved to Australia we enjoyed being part of a vibrant primary school community, but when my two daughters started high school and became more independent, I felt less needed. Many of the school mums I […]

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Honest August

During August, I would like to encourage you to focus on honesty. In particular, being honest with yourself about the state of your life. And more importantly about the people you surround yourself with. Do those you spend time with, whether that be your partner, friends or family, lift you up or pull you down? Moran Cerf, a neuroscientist at Northwestern University, Illinois spent years studying human decision making and during this process discovered that ultimate happiness does not come from experiences or wealth. It comes from your community and who you spend your time with. Two factors lead Cerf […]

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