Dealing With Life After Loss

We have all suffered loss of some sort: death of a loved one, redundancy, divorce, termination of a pet, to name but a few. All of these involve the ending of a relationship and they all cause pain one way or another. When I was 28 my boyfriend was killed in a car crash. When I was 38 my dad suffered a stroke and died a few months later. A few days after my 40th birthday party my mum was admitted to hospital and died days later (she had liver cancer and we didn’t know.) My brother-in-law passed away in […]

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Surviving Against All Odds!

I have just returned from an amazing trip to the Galapagos Islands in Ecuador. You may think this is of no interest to you… but read on because the lessons I learned during my time in this magical place are relevant to all humankind. Many animals made these Islands their home and have survived against all the odds. How? By adapting to their surroundings… And by that, I mean PHYSICALLY adapting. Can you imagine changing your body to adjust to new circumstances in life? I discovered that the Flightless Cormorant, is one of the rarest birds in the world. Why? Because […]

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Its the Welcome That’s Most Important

It’s the welcome that’s most important,” my mum used to say whenever we had people visiting our house. Then she would run around like a mad woman cleaning, clearing, screaming at us kids to help! Everyone would receive a warm welcome except us! As we approach Christmas and plan to host events, allow me to share a few tips on how to deal with all the chores and tasks involved in a positive manner. We are driven by our feelings. Those feelings come from an initial thought. Those feelings also direct our behaviour. If we can manage that initial thought, […]

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Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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Things to do in the New Year

Things you need to do at the beginning of a new year!

One of the things I love about living in Australia is that life slows down for the whole month of January.  I still find a hot, sunny Christmas a bit confusing but I like the fact that people take time during, and after the silly season to spend time at the beach.  It is not only the festive season but also our summer holiday time and most schools don’t start back until the end of January. I use this time to set myself up for success in the coming year.  I don’t just mean business success, but personal success too. […]

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Drama Queen? Superhero? Angry Bird?

Do any of these personalities live in your home? The truth is that we are all guilty of playing some of these roles at different times, depending on the situation or the people involved. Recognising these behaviours in ourselves is the first step to having harmony in our lives, our work place and our home. Teaching this awareness to our children is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. You may have heard of The Drama Triangle. It is a relationship tool that was created by Psychiatrist, Stephen Karpman in 1968, as a way to show his clients […]

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Struggle is essential for Growth

I read this story a while ago, and felt compelled to share it. Life is not easy, but unfortunately we have been tricked in to believing that it should be. Constantly striving to be ‘happy’ or looking for a quick fix can leave us feeling frustrated, disappointed and more stressed than before. When we are over protective of ourselves, and others in our life, we unintentionally disempower each other in the quest to deal with life. The following tale contains a wise message. The original author is unknown. A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it […]

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The Role of the Mind

I have just finished reading “Trout Strategy” by Jack Trout, his main message is about conquering the marketplace, however, I was drawn more to the chapters dealing with the role of the mind when buying, selling, advertising and marketing. I’m sure you will find it of interest too.   1. MINDS ARE LIMITED The human mind is a lot like a computer, it has a slot or a memory bank for each bit of information it chooses to retain. There is one major difference – the computer has to accept the information you put in. The human mind will only accept information that matches […]

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

New Year : BE you

The New Year allows us to throw away old calendars and start fresh with a blank canvass for each new month ahead. We make resolutions in our minds to change and improve. We make verbal commitments to ourselves and then we give ourselves a hard time when we don’t measure up. We label ourselves a failure by mid February and convince ourselves that it is all too hard and new years resolutions are a stupid idea anyway! “Life is difficult.” This is the first sentence written by Scott Peck in his famous book The Road Less Travelled. And do you […]

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Change

Do I have to change?

No, of course you don’t! If something isn’t broken, why fix it? As long as you are happy with yourself and your life, there is no reason to change anything. However, when you begin to experience pain, or when your thoughts and actions start to create problems, you will NEED to change. More often than not we do not WANT to change. In each and every individual there is an infinite potential for expansion and growth. Not everyone chooses to use it, but it is there! Perhaps the most ironic thing is when people continue to do what they’ve always […]

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