Surviving Against All Odds!

I have just returned from an amazing trip to the Galapagos Islands in Ecuador. You may think this is of no interest to you… but read on because the lessons I learned during my time in this magical place are relevant to all humankind. Many animals made these Islands their home and have survived against all the odds. How? By adapting to their surroundings… And by that, I mean PHYSICALLY adapting. Can you imagine changing your body to adjust to new circumstances in life? I discovered that the Flightless Cormorant, is one of the rarest birds in the world. Why? Because […]

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Pick Your Fights!

Why is it important to pick your fights? Not everything is important. Some things that you feel strongly about now, just won’t matter this time next year. Every battle takes up precious time. Each problem you become embroiled in can end up stealing your time, which could’ve been spent doing fun things. Arguments leave us feeling drained of energy. We only have a certain reserve each day, don’t waste your energy on fruitless debates. After a fight with someone, we often feel upset and regretful. Hurtful words and actions cannot be taken back. They can damage relationships long term. So […]

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Its the Welcome That’s Most Important

It’s the welcome that’s most important,” my mum used to say whenever we had people visiting our house. Then she would run around like a mad woman cleaning, clearing, screaming at us kids to help! Everyone would receive a warm welcome except us! As we approach Christmas and plan to host events, allow me to share a few tips on how to deal with all the chores and tasks involved in a positive manner. We are driven by our feelings. Those feelings come from an initial thought. Those feelings also direct our behaviour. If we can manage that initial thought, […]

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Clear Clutter to find Clarity

As a young child, whenever I was sick my mum would clean my room and say, “you’ll feel better after I’ve tidied everything away.” And I always did; even to this day I always feel better when my house is clean.   It is well know that our surroundings affect us. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel when you go to the beach, or for a walk in the hills. Recognise what emotions surface when you enter your office building or the dentist surgery.   How do you feel when you are in your own home? Content or […]

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Things you need to do at the beginning of a new year!

One of the things I love about living in Australia is that life slows down for the whole month of January.  I still find a hot, sunny Christmas a bit confusing but I like the fact that people take time during, and after the silly season to spend time at the beach.  It is not only the festive season but also our summer holiday time and most schools don’t start back until the end of January. I use this time to set myself up for success in the coming year.  I don’t just mean business success, but personal success too. […]

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KEEP CALM THIS CHRISTMAS

Easier said than done, I hear you say, when reading this title.  I agree. It’s an oxymoron having the words ‘calm’ and ‘Christmas’ in same sentence.  For most of us the run up to Christmas and even the special day itself, is anything but calm. Adverts talk about the ‘Christmas Frenzy’, just reading those words makes my brain overheat. However, it doesn’t have to be that way.  You can choose to do it differently this year.  As a mum with older teenagers I look back and wish I had have relaxed more on 25th December every year, here are a […]

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Creating your Life Midlife

My young client said recently “I really appreciate having an older lady in my life for guidance and wisdom”.  I looked over my shoulder, to see who this older woman was, only to realise that she was referring to me! Since when had I become the older lady, I thought? I still feel the same as I did when I was in my 20’s. I found it challenging when the first signs of uninvited lines marked my face, and silver strands appeared around my hairline. I remember being annoyed that my fitness level had fallen to an all time low, […]

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Music on the Mind

Do you like listening to music? Do you have a favourite genre? Do you sing along while driving? Are you motivated to dance when you hear it? Are you soothed by it? Every person will answer these questions differently because we all have our own taste and preference when it comes to music. Some people don’t listen to music at all; they find it a distraction and sometimes even irritating. I’m always looking for ways to help clients shift their mindset and music is one that I recommend often. Music can take our mind to a peaceful place, or an […]

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Drama Queen? Superhero? Angry Bird?

Do any of these personalities live in your home? The truth is that we are all guilty of playing some of these roles at different times, depending on the situation or the people involved. Recognising these behaviours in ourselves is the first step to having harmony in our lives, our work place and our home. Teaching this awareness to our children is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. You may have heard of The Drama Triangle. It is a relationship tool that was created by Psychiatrist, Stephen Karpman in 1968, as a way to show his clients […]

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Struggle is essential for Growth

I read this story a while ago, and felt compelled to share it. Life is not easy, but unfortunately we have been tricked in to believing that it should be. Constantly striving to be ‘happy’ or looking for a quick fix can leave us feeling frustrated, disappointed and more stressed than before. When we are over protective of ourselves, and others in our life, we unintentionally disempower each other in the quest to deal with life. The following tale contains a wise message. The original author is unknown. A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it […]

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