Women Supporting Women

I was walking with my dog this morning and overheard two ladies chatting (I wasn’t prying, I promise – they were just speaking very loud!) “Oh, I didn’t realise…   that changes my mind then….    I won’t be so hard on her next time.” It is human nature to view situations from our own point of view, we bring our experiences, expectations and opinions with us to every event.  But this can lead us to misjudge others, especially if we don’t know the back story or all the facts. When someone behaves in a manner we don’t like, our automatic reaction […]

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The Game of Life

Most Kids/Teens play computer games.  This can drive parents mad with frustration, especially when their teenage child is not focusing on other things like schoolwork or house chores.  What if I told you that there are valuable life lessons to be learned from playing computer games? I discovered this recently when chatting to my teenager about the amount of time spent on gaming.  Defending her actions she bemoaned “but mum you don’t understand!”  That’s true.  I don’t get it.  “I can’t just give up, I am working to reach the next level, where I will be rewarded.”  I looked at […]

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“The Mind Platter”

There is more to education than Reading, wRiting and ‘aRithmetic. Dr Dan Siegel M.D, world renowned Neuropsychiatrist, likes to focus on three different R’s: Relationships, Reflection and Resilience. Through his research he reports that when we are interconnected with others, have empathy with others and insight into ourselves, we have “mind sight”. With mind sight we can experience reflective relationships, which create resilience – the ability to meet challenges and bounce back after a fall. The goal for Siegel is a healthy brain that sustains a person’s wellbeing. As he sees it, the brain needs proper nutrition every day and […]

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W.A.I.T.

Why Am I Talking? Good question! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I love to talk. However, I have learned over the years that one major skill of an effective coach is to listen. Someone once told me: “we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening really is a skill. Most of us want others to hear what we have to say. It makes us feel good to know that they are interested, we believe that we are valued when someone takes the time to listen. […]

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Hidden Thoughts

Would you like to have an insight into the hidden thoughts of others? Once you learn how to read someone’s body language then you will realize that their thoughts are not as hidden as they might think! Alan Pease has studied human body communication for decades and shares his discoveries in the best selling book: The Definitive Book of Body Language. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Communication with Body Language When we are aware of the signals that we intuitively give out, we can use this understanding to communicate more effectively with our loved ones at […]

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Undercover Boss

I love the TV show, Undercover Boss because it gives us a chance to see people as they really are.   Unaware that they are being assessed by the boss, the staff get on with everyday tasks, usually training the company’s CEO (incognito) as they go along.   I always find myself asking, what would my boss say at the end of a day with me? I laugh when I see the CEOs struggling to do basic menial tasks, but I also admire them for making the effort to find out what life is like working in the frontline of their organisation. […]

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Resilience

Resilience is important to our growth and survival. Yet resilience, we are told, is in decline. Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point wrote in the New Yorker that contemporary western society overemphasises the psychological impact of adversity and turns people into victims. He reminds us that research shows that adverse childhood incidents do not have the huge negative impact we think they have. What does have an impact is neglect. When a child’s basic needs are not met over a sustained period of time, that does indeed blight their future life. But while the notion of resilience may be […]

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M I N D S E T  

Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University spent decades researching people’s beliefs about their ability and discovered that it all evolves around their mindset. Let’s take a look at different mindsets now: The Fixed Mindset A person with this mindset upholds the idea that people’s ability is fixed and not able to change.  According to this view, people are either good at a particular task/topic or they are not.  The fixed mindset labels others according to personal characteristics ie:  people are either good or bad, caring or selfish, clever or stupid etc…  as you can see this is a form of judgment and leads to others feeling that they are constantly […]

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LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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Happy People

An epidemic of depression is blighting the lives of people more than ever before. Lonely pensioners, struggling middle-managers and clinically depressed teenagers are no longer a rarity. As a nation, we have never had it so good in terms of money in our pockets, university education opportunities, helpful gadgets and entertainment devices. Yet, we are dissatisfied. Constant advertising from banks and retailers encourage us to increase our spending power, promoting the idea that a wider range of choice will lead to feeling happy and prosperous. Prosperity is important to all of us, however, it has been proven that once we […]

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