are you on the right track?

Move over SMART GOALS – TRAMS are coming through

Writing out my ‘smart’ goals for this month was such a chore.  Feeling fed up with the same old mechanical rote of ‘specific, measured, achievable, realistic and timed’ my creative mind started to play a game and turned ‘smart’ in to T.R.A.M.S. T.R.A.M.S goals mean more to me because they focus me ‘towards’ the positive and away from the negative.  I can already visualize my ‘rewards’.   I laugh when I act as if.  Keeping my goals meaningful and memorable allows me to engage my heart, not just my head.  Being aware of stability is important to me and as long […]

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choice

YOU ARE IN CHARGE! – SO TAKE CHARGE…life is all about choice….. 

My teenage daughter was complaining about a list of things that went wrong for her last week and how other people ‘made’ her feel upset, or angry or frustrated. She was genuinely stunned when I told her that no one could ‘make’ her feel a certain way.   I explained that she chose her reaction to every single situation, whether that was an emotional response or physical action or negative self-talk.  We went on to discuss the importance of her being in charge of her life and the relevant consequences.  I could see her posture change to one of confidence as […]

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words have power

It’s NOT what you say, It’s the WAY you say it! 

For those of you who know me, you know that I love to talk, whether in person, via skype, delivering a presentation or training workshops.   I love to talk.  Like many, I feel frustrated when people don’t seem to get what I’m trying to say.  I hate to admit it, but it’s not their fault  – it’s mine! For many years, I have been fascinated by the work of Professor Albert Mehrabian.  His research provides the basis for the much-quoted statistic below. These findings highlight the effectiveness, (or lack) when using the spoken word to communicate feelings and attitudes: 7%  of meaning is in the words that are spoken. […]

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