Women Supporting Women

I was walking with my dog this morning and overheard two ladies chatting (I wasn’t prying, I promise – they were just speaking very loud!) “Oh, I didn’t realise…   that changes my mind then….    I won’t be so hard on her next time.” It is human nature to view situations from our own point of view, we bring our experiences, expectations and opinions with us to every event.  But this can lead us to misjudge others, especially if we don’t know the back story or all the facts. When someone behaves in a manner we don’t like, our automatic reaction […]

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IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED …. ASK YOURSELF WHY?

Planning the winter holiday in Japan with my family was great fun. What I hadn’t planned was the lesson I learnt about myself in the process… My teenage daughters and I agreed to join my husband in mastering the art of snowboarding. With huge excitement and positivity we booked rooms overlooking the mountains of Hakuba and signed up for beginner’s lessons. With our bags packed, a comfortable flight and a few days in Tokyo beforehand, we finally arrived at the ski resort. Winter sun shinning on white glistening snow, we stepped comfortably into a gondola, helped by an assistant who […]

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right?-wrong?-different?

Not Right or Wrong – JUST DIFFERENT!

I watched two women interviewed on sunrise recently. Their English accents caught my attention and I wondered why they were on Australian TV. It is a fate of our society that bad news sells, shocking news grabs our attention and this was no different. It wasn’t immediately obvious that one woman was older than the other, when they were introduced as mother and daughter their story became even more unbelievable. So what was the message that they had to share with the world? That they spent £100,000 on plastic surgery to look like Katy Price, (a British topless model, previously […]

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3 steps forward

3 x 3 x 3

Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to do 3 things that make a difference? I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago. It immediately appealed to me. I could see that it required only a short period of time, it would help me create a routine and it would make a difference in everyday life, for both myself and those around me. I implemented this routine immediately and the results were instant. I felt a sense of peace as soon as I pressed the pause button in my mind; three minutes seemed like a long time […]

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The NEGATIVE Brain

“With nothing to do, the mind is unable to prevent negative thoughts from elbowing their way to center stage – worries about one’s love life, health, investments, family and job are always hovering at the periphery of attention, waiting until there is nothing pressing that demands concentration. As soon as the mind is relaxed, the potential problems that were waiting in the wings take over.” (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1990) Worrying is the brain’s default position Evolution has ensured that we are quick to attend to potential threats around us by providing us with an attention system, which orientates to the negative […]

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negative feelings controlled

Remote CONTROL 

Everything we do is based around FEELINGS!  We watch a romantic movie because it makes us feel good.  We buy a new dress because it makes us feel good.  We hang out with friends because it makes us feel good. So what do we do when events cause negative feelings within us? We tell ourselves to stop being so stupid.  We say it doesn’t matter, when it really does.  We try to ignore the negativity hoping it will go away.  We decide to fight it yet, we don’t know how.  We get angry and spiral out of control, then are […]

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