positives over negative

5 Positives to 1 Negative

This is a terrific article by neurogym.com I could’nt explain it better myself, so am sharing the whole article with you. When doctors and therapists teach patients to turn negative thoughts and worries into positive affirmations, the communication process improves and the patient regains self-control and confidence. But there’s a problem: the brain barely responds to our positive words and thoughts. They’re not a threat to our survival, so the brain doesn’t need to respond as rapidly as it does to negative thoughts and words. To overcome this neural bias for negativity, we must repetitiously and consciously generate as many […]

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right?-wrong?-different?

Not Right or Wrong – JUST DIFFERENT!

I watched two women interviewed on sunrise recently. Their English accents caught my attention and I wondered why they were on Australian TV. It is a fate of our society that bad news sells, shocking news grabs our attention and this was no different. It wasn’t immediately obvious that one woman was older than the other, when they were introduced as mother and daughter their story became even more unbelievable. So what was the message that they had to share with the world? That they spent £100,000 on plastic surgery to look like Katy Price, (a British topless model, previously […]

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keep-climbing

KEEP CLIMBING

I can’t remember where I heard this story but I love the message it conveys. There was a climbing competition organized between a group of tiny mice. The goal was to reach the top of a really tall tower. A huge crowd gathered to watch the race. No one in the audience believed that the mice could reach the top because it was such a huge climb and would take forever. They yelled, “no mouse has ever made it to the top” and “that’s too difficult” and “it’s far too high.” The race began and within a short period of time many […]

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act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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body language

Hidden Thoughts

Would you like to have an insight into the hidden thoughts of others? Once you learn how to read someone’s body language then you will realize that their thoughts are not as hidden as they might think! Alan Pease has studied human body communication for decades and shares his discoveries in the best selling book: The Definitive Book of Body Language. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Communication with Body Language When we are aware of the signals that we intuitively give out, we can use this understanding to communicate more effectively with our loved ones at […]

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Fear, is it a real threat

Did you know?

Is it a real threat? Did you know that most of your fears are based on things that happened in the past and you’re projecting that experience into your future?   Which means that there is actually nothing to be afraid of . Always ask yourself – is this situation (or impending situation) a real threat to my personal survival? Usually it isn’t. Is it a habit? Did you know that the more pleasure you feel whilst learning a new habit, the more likely the habit will stick? It’s true, so try it next time you are replacing a bad habit […]

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mindset

M I N D S E T  

Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University spent decades researching people’s beliefs about their ability and discovered that it all evolves around their mindset. Let’s take a look at different mindsets now: The Fixed Mindset A person with this mindset upholds the idea that people’s ability is fixed and not able to change.  According to this view, people are either good at a particular task/topic or they are not.  The fixed mindset labels others according to personal characteristics ie:  people are either good or bad, caring or selfish, clever or stupid etc…  as you can see this is a form of judgment and leads to others feeling that they are constantly […]

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affirmations

Tools for Change

When you want to change a personal situation or negative attitude or bad habit, making the decision to do so, is the first important step. However, just making the decision won’t bring about the change. Further action is required, starting in our sub-conscious mind and then eventually reality. From the decision, create a mental picture of what you want, this is your goal. This goal becomes an affirmation when you write it down and use it to programme your subconscious. An affirmation is a statement of fact or belief written in the positive, present tense as though the goal was […]

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negative feelings controlled

Remote CONTROL 

Everything we do is based around FEELINGS!  We watch a romantic movie because it makes us feel good.  We buy a new dress because it makes us feel good.  We hang out with friends because it makes us feel good. So what do we do when events cause negative feelings within us? We tell ourselves to stop being so stupid.  We say it doesn’t matter, when it really does.  We try to ignore the negativity hoping it will go away.  We decide to fight it yet, we don’t know how.  We get angry and spiral out of control, then are […]

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