motivation

WHAT DRIVES YOU?

I have studied the topic of motivation and different internal or external drivers that move people forward in life.   For example, some people are motivated by money others strive for free time. I have struggled with the idea of goal setting for the past few years because (thanks to my husband for financially providing a comfortable life for me and my family) neither time nor money drive me to achieve. Some may say this is a very ‘spoiled’ scenario and to just ‘get over myself’. I may even recommend to someone else in this position to go and do voluntary […]

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act not try

Trying doesn’t work

Trying doesn’t work – imagine if I dropped a pencil and then said I would try and pick it up. It doesn’t make sense, either I will bend down, curl my fingers around it and remove it from the ground; or I won’t! The same applies to desired achievement in any area of our life. Every success starts by making a decision and long lasting success comes from consistent action. I challenge you to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary. I’ve had a particularly tough week. The publisher who promised to have my book in shops by February has […]

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undercover boss

Undercover Boss

I love the TV show, Undercover Boss because it gives us a chance to see people as they really are.   Unaware that they are being assessed by the boss, the staff get on with everyday tasks, usually training the company’s CEO (incognito) as they go along.   I always find myself asking, what would my boss say at the end of a day with me? I laugh when I see the CEOs struggling to do basic menial tasks, but I also admire them for making the effort to find out what life is like working in the frontline of their organisation. […]

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mindset

M I N D S E T  

Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University spent decades researching people’s beliefs about their ability and discovered that it all evolves around their mindset. Let’s take a look at different mindsets now: The Fixed Mindset A person with this mindset upholds the idea that people’s ability is fixed and not able to change.  According to this view, people are either good at a particular task/topic or they are not.  The fixed mindset labels others according to personal characteristics ie:  people are either good or bad, caring or selfish, clever or stupid etc…  as you can see this is a form of judgment and leads to others feeling that they are constantly […]

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write a book

LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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3 steps forward

3 x 3 x 3

Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to do 3 things that make a difference? I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago. It immediately appealed to me. I could see that it required only a short period of time, it would help me create a routine and it would make a difference in everyday life, for both myself and those around me. I implemented this routine immediately and the results were instant. I felt a sense of peace as soon as I pressed the pause button in my mind; three minutes seemed like a long time […]

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are you on the right track?

Move over SMART GOALS – TRAMS are coming through

Writing out my ‘smart’ goals for this month was such a chore.  Feeling fed up with the same old mechanical rote of ‘specific, measured, achievable, realistic and timed’ my creative mind started to play a game and turned ‘smart’ in to T.R.A.M.S. T.R.A.M.S goals mean more to me because they focus me ‘towards’ the positive and away from the negative.  I can already visualize my ‘rewards’.   I laugh when I act as if.  Keeping my goals meaningful and memorable allows me to engage my heart, not just my head.  Being aware of stability is important to me and as long […]

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words have power

It’s NOT what you say, It’s the WAY you say it! 

For those of you who know me, you know that I love to talk, whether in person, via skype, delivering a presentation or training workshops.   I love to talk.  Like many, I feel frustrated when people don’t seem to get what I’m trying to say.  I hate to admit it, but it’s not their fault  – it’s mine! For many years, I have been fascinated by the work of Professor Albert Mehrabian.  His research provides the basis for the much-quoted statistic below. These findings highlight the effectiveness, (or lack) when using the spoken word to communicate feelings and attitudes: 7%  of meaning is in the words that are spoken. […]

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