Women Supporting Women

I was walking with my dog this morning and overheard two ladies chatting (I wasn’t prying, I promise – they were just speaking very loud!) “Oh, I didn’t realise…   that changes my mind then….    I won’t be so hard on her next time.” It is human nature to view situations from our own point of view, we bring our experiences, expectations and opinions with us to every event.  But this can lead us to misjudge others, especially if we don’t know the back story or all the facts. When someone behaves in a manner we don’t like, our automatic reaction […]

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New Year, New Mindset, New Results

It’s so exciting to be a woman in 2019!  Opportunities have never been better. Women are standing up for what they believe, they are speaking out about injustices and they are taking action to make our world a better place. To do this, many of these women have had to garner much courage and determination, thankfully they did not have to do it alone. They sought guidance, support and community.  If you don’t have these things in your life in 2019 you are missing out…. Negative self talk, procrastination and doubt are only a few of the many things that can hold us […]

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IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED …. ASK YOURSELF WHY?

Planning the winter holiday in Japan with my family was great fun. What I hadn’t planned was the lesson I learnt about myself in the process… My teenage daughters and I agreed to join my husband in mastering the art of snowboarding. With huge excitement and positivity we booked rooms overlooking the mountains of Hakuba and signed up for beginner’s lessons. With our bags packed, a comfortable flight and a few days in Tokyo beforehand, we finally arrived at the ski resort. Winter sun shinning on white glistening snow, we stepped comfortably into a gondola, helped by an assistant who […]

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motivation

WHAT DRIVES YOU?

I have studied the topic of motivation and different internal or external drivers that move people forward in life.   For example, some people are motivated by money others strive for free time. I have struggled with the idea of goal setting for the past few years because (thanks to my husband for financially providing a comfortable life for me and my family) neither time nor money drive me to achieve. Some may say this is a very ‘spoiled’ scenario and to just ‘get over myself’. I may even recommend to someone else in this position to go and do voluntary […]

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write a book

LIFE IS A BOOK

I have recently written a memoir about a particular period of my life.   Through this exercise I realized that Life is a Book, each chapter representing a peep-hole to a part of my time on earth. Each paragraph filled with exclamation marks and question marks, describing my highs and lows. Every sentence making a statement and each word screaming to be heard. Everyone has a book inside them It is said that everyone has a book inside them and I believe it is true. We are all different, we walk separate paths through life and experience the same situation in […]

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3 steps forward

3 x 3 x 3

Take 3 minutes, 3 times a day, to do 3 things that make a difference? I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago. It immediately appealed to me. I could see that it required only a short period of time, it would help me create a routine and it would make a difference in everyday life, for both myself and those around me. I implemented this routine immediately and the results were instant. I felt a sense of peace as soon as I pressed the pause button in my mind; three minutes seemed like a long time […]

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rewire your brain

The NEGATIVE Brain

“With nothing to do, the mind is unable to prevent negative thoughts from elbowing their way to center stage – worries about one’s love life, health, investments, family and job are always hovering at the periphery of attention, waiting until there is nothing pressing that demands concentration. As soon as the mind is relaxed, the potential problems that were waiting in the wings take over.” (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1990) Worrying is the brain’s default position Evolution has ensured that we are quick to attend to potential threats around us by providing us with an attention system, which orientates to the negative […]

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are you on the right track?

Move over SMART GOALS – TRAMS are coming through

Writing out my ‘smart’ goals for this month was such a chore.  Feeling fed up with the same old mechanical rote of ‘specific, measured, achievable, realistic and timed’ my creative mind started to play a game and turned ‘smart’ in to T.R.A.M.S. T.R.A.M.S goals mean more to me because they focus me ‘towards’ the positive and away from the negative.  I can already visualize my ‘rewards’.   I laugh when I act as if.  Keeping my goals meaningful and memorable allows me to engage my heart, not just my head.  Being aware of stability is important to me and as long […]

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words have power

It’s NOT what you say, It’s the WAY you say it! 

For those of you who know me, you know that I love to talk, whether in person, via skype, delivering a presentation or training workshops.   I love to talk.  Like many, I feel frustrated when people don’t seem to get what I’m trying to say.  I hate to admit it, but it’s not their fault  – it’s mine! For many years, I have been fascinated by the work of Professor Albert Mehrabian.  His research provides the basis for the much-quoted statistic below. These findings highlight the effectiveness, (or lack) when using the spoken word to communicate feelings and attitudes: 7%  of meaning is in the words that are spoken. […]

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